Cystitis Relief

My boyfriend and I have lived together for a year. We met when we moved into the same apartment- so the entire time we’ve known each other, we’ve also lived together.
For the last several months I have had little to no desire to have sex with him. Meanwhile, he wants to have sex ALL the time. If I say no, then he will masturbate, and sometimes force me to watch or touch myself- – not in an abusive way- just in an annoying way- like in the morning when I’m trying to sleep. It’s irritating and grosses me out.
We both lead very stressful lives in an urban environment, and this lifestyle exhausts me. Every time he comes onto me, I just get exhausted or start thinking about all of the chores I should be doing instead of having sex. I was also dealing with chronic cystitis for the last 2 years, so every time I think about sex in general I associate it with illness, anxiety and pain. When I try to talk to him about maybe taking a break for a while and why I need to, he jumps to the conclusion that I’m not attracted to him. We are both athletic and attractive people- so that’s not true. Whenever I do feel like having sex, (or just feel like giving into his advances so that he will get off my back- literally), he says, "Finally!" or "Well, its been a while!". In reality it may have been 4 days maximum. When he says things like that it completely turns me off.
I’m beginning to feel like my issue with sex is ruining my relationship. I saw that he was live video chatting with online whores, and I couldn’t help but be grossed out and disappointed in both of us… I don’t know what to do to make myself more… horny for him! Or to make him less horny!
I know many men out there are going to say, "Yes! You must have sex with your man! Of course you are not fulfilling his needs if you deny him for 4 days!" But please, unless you can justify that as an answer, don’t even bother replying.
Your answers are all great. He is currently out of town, but when he comes back I am definitely going to talk to him. To be honest I do think that its perverted that he’s been video chatting with these women- and its hurting me because i feel like all he wants is empty sex. Sex is a near religious experience for me, and I don’t even understand how he could get a thrill out of these prostitutes. I feel guilty because I am attracted to other men, and have very sexual thoughts about them. But they are all lofty and itellectual and really have something going for them. Weve been having issues like bills and our sick dog, and his lack of responsibility in regards to money management has come up as the culprit many times. The days he has off he just parks himself in front of the t.v., eats junk food, doesn’t brush his teeth, but still expects me to be turned on by him because i love him. He is a quality guy, but I find i love him more like a brother than a lover.

The only thing that you can do is to talk with him about it. If he does love you, he will understand and make some some promises. And do tell him to stop making relarks like "finally" or whatever. If he still doesnt understand, it probably means that he doesnt care about you and that he’s with you only for the sex….

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Every time I have sex I end up in agony for the next few days and off work with cystitis. Abstinence is completely out of the question (!) and i have tried cranberry juice, warm baths, going to the toilet after, sachets of horrible cystitis relief! Does anyone have any tips, if there’s any natural remedy i can try or something?! i can’t go through this every time!!!! Can it be passed on and if so does it take longer for men to have symptoms? Also does drinking alcohol before contribute as i know it makes symptoms worse after, but what about before? Thank you so much! x

Well do you go to the doctor and get antibiotics? If not, then you need to. If you don’t then the infection can keep coming back. If you are, then you need to be referred to a urologist.

A urinary tract infection (UTI) is an infection that involved the kidneys, ureters, bladder, or urethra. These are all body parts in which urine passes through before exiting the body. Any or all of these parts can become infected, and the rule is that the farther up the urinary tract the infection is, the worse it is considered.

In your body the upper urinary tract is made up of the kidneys and the ureters. Infections of the upper urinary tract usually affect the kidneys and are referred to as pyelonephritis. Lower urinary tract is composed up of the bladder and urethra. Infection of the lower urinary tract that affects the urethra is known as urethritis and the bladder infection is referred to as cystitis.

Simple infections that occur in a healthy urinary tract do not usually spread to other areas of the body and can be treated easily. Those who have complications that are connected to a UTI can experience infection caused by anatomic abnormalities, spread to other areas of the body, or are resistant to the antibiotics available are more challenging to treat.

UTIS are quite common in America, accounting for more than seven million medical office and hospital visits each year. UTI is more common for adults but can affect about two percent of children. If your child does get a UTI they are treated as more serious than an adult’s so seek medical attention as soon as possible if you think your child may have one.

It is good to know that children who have bedwetting problems are most likely to develop a UTI. When it comes to men and women under the age of fifty women are much more likely to develop a UTI. If your son develops a UTI it is likely going to be more serious than a girl’s. It has been estimated that bout forty percent of women and twelve percent of men have experienced a UTI at some point in their life.

In a normal healthy body urine is sterile. When an infection occurs it is caused by bacteria that got into the urine and started to grow. The infection will generally start at the opening of the urethra and begins its upward journey through your urinary tract infecting everything it comes in contract with.

The most common cause of UTIS is Escherichia Coli (E coli) which is bacteria that usually lives in the colon. E coli make up for about ninety percent of uncomplicated infections. The bacteria can move from the anus area to the opening of the urethra due to poor hygiene or sexual intercourse. The emptying of the bladder is how you flush out these bacteria.

Sven Ullmann
http://www.articlesbase.com/diseases-and-conditions-articles/bladder-infections-111893.html